Selena Gomez had to mourn because she could not bear her own children

Selena Gomez talks about her plans to become a mother.

In conversation with Vanity Fair In the magazine's October issue, which came out on Monday, September 9, the 32-year-old actress and singer explained that she was unable to carry her children to term.

“I never said this… but unfortunately I cannot carry my own children,” Gomez said. “I have many health problems that would put my life and the babies' lives at risk. That was something I had to grieve for a while…”

Gomez has previously spoken about suffering from complications with lupus, which she was diagnosed with in 2015. In April 2020, she also revealed her bipolar disorder during an episode of Miley Cyrus' Instagram Live show. Clairvoyant.

She added: “[But] I feel much better about this. I feel blessed that there are wonderful people who are willing to do surrogacy or adoption, both of which are great options for me.”

“I'm really grateful for the other options for people who are desperate to become mothers. I'm one of those people,” she continued. “I'm excited to see what that journey will look like, but it will look a little different. At the end of the day, I don't care. It's going to be mine. It's going to be my baby.”

This is not the first time Gomez has spoken about her desire to become a parent at some point in the future.

In a November 2022 article, Gomez recalled crying in her car and thinking that she would likely never be able to carry children of her own because of the two medications she takes for her bipolar disorder.

“This is a very, very big, present thing in my life,” Gomez told the outlet, before noting that she hopes to become a mother in other ways in the coming years.

“Whatever way I'm meant to get them, I'm going to get them,” she added about the prospect of having children.

According to a doctor-reviewed article from WebMD, medications for bipolar disorder can cause birth problems such as neural tube defects, heart defects, and developmental delays or neurobehavioral disorders. However, some doctors recommend continuing to take such medications during labor because bipolar symptoms can worsen during pregnancy.

Elsewhere in her Vanity Fair History that Only murders in the building Star also spoke about her boyfriend Benny Blanco, whose fiancé she confirmed in December 2023.

“I've never been loved so much… He was just a light. An absolute light in my life. He's my best friend. I love telling him everything.” she told the outlet.

When he talked about how 36-year-old Blanco said he wanted to marry her, The Howard Stern Show In May, she added: “After the interview, I was laughing my head off. It was like, 'Was there anything else you wanted to say?'”

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Gomez's comments about her lover come after she revealed that cooking with Blanco really “grounds” her.

“I love fresh food and stuff. I'm starting to get into it because my boyfriend makes me do it,” she said. “Just being in the garden and picking food to cook with. It sounds so silly and insignificant, but the older you get, the more you realize it's OK to be simple and have simplicity.”